Self-Doubt and you

Self Doubt

I had a meeting with a client recently, and I've known this person for awhile, but it was the first time we’d met for business purposes. I have a generic set of questions, that I use to gauge what peoples issues are, and what they're struggling with. When I asked what was holding her back, what’s the biggest challenge and what's stopping your business from growing etc. It became very apparent that there was a lot of doubts going on, because the answer was “me” it was heartbreaking to hear that this person doubted themselves so much, that it was holding them back from their dream of growing their business and being financially free.

The sad thing is, I only started my business last year in 2018 and I've heard people say this and encountered doubt on numerous occasions already. This is outstanding, so I thought I would come up with some tips that will help people who have doubt.

Set goals

Set short-term and long-term goals so that you have something to focus on, this will also keep you motivated and driven to do well. When you achieve something, no matter how small it maybe, reward yourself! It maybe small but its still a win, so celebrate it!

Have a tasty snack or your favourite food for dinner, spend some time on your favourite hobby or buy yourself something you’ve wanted for some time now.

This will renew and recharge your motivation and make taking action feel more exciting and fun. And that will push self-doubts aside so that you can keep moving and get more small and bigger wins.

What someone said or did might not be about you (or about what you think it is).

Don't worry about what others think or do. Concentrate on yourself and your business. Thinking about what others think would do is not only time-consuming but you will make unrealistic comparisons, it will also make you feel even more anxious and tired.

Don’t beat yourself up about it

Another thing that can make you anxious is worrying that you are doubting yourself. Don't! Stop and forgive yourself cut yourself some slack!

I have found that being kind and constructive when feeling self-doubt is a better choice. So I use kind and understanding words towards myself but I also ask myself:

What is one very small step I can take to move forward in this situation?

Then I take that very small step and start to step by step move towards where I want to go.

Cut the cycle

Push yourself out of your comfort zone, do something that scares you. But it will also boost your confidence! It will cut the cycle of self-doubt. Leaving your comfort zone is part and parcel of being successful.

I hope you’ve found this blog helpful, any questions please email me info@chloiviavirtualassistants.com